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5 Self Care To Overcome Loneliness

loneliness is a disease that psychologically affects the totality of its victims, causing them to see the end of the road even without starting a journey. loneliness is one of the reason why some students fails in their academics because they have been attacked by this virus and infected with unspeakable low self esteem.

According to my findings, 90% of poor students in secondary schools in Nigeria are battling with chronic loneliness condition . this level loneliness can also cause a serious damage to the cognitive domain of a child turning such child to a dull student.

loneliness is the period you lack intimacy, the period of you feel excluded and highly marginalized. loneliness is terrible, dangerous and something that is common but yet it can be overcome

SELF CARE TO OVERCOME LONELINESS

1. Realize loneliness is just a feeling and not the fact : loneliness chop deep into its victim by creating a sense of attention the the body system of such person. in doing this, it generate to feelings linked to such situation that triggers it. with this, a message is passed to the brain caring this bad feelings so as to create question that will demoralize the entire body system. such question as, why am i feeling this way?, is it because am not brilliant, is it because am poor or because am a loser is that why people don't seems to love me and many more and before you know it, loneliness as started turning all this feeling your having into fact in your brain creating a bigger problem. So the first thing you need to do in overcoming loneliness is for you to realize that loneliness is just a feeling and not fact. feelings can be remove but facts are rigid in nature
2. Don't isolate yourself (Mingle) : sometimes when you are feeling lonely you might be feeling engaging with people is not the best so you keep to yourself. My dear stop it as you are doing more arm than good to yourself. move out, make friend and share your mind with people around you with a smile. loneliness comes from people not allowing other people to get close them. no mater your self-image there is always someone who is ready to be your friend but you can only meet them if you did not isolate yourself. keeping your own company is the foundation of everlasting loneliness.
3. Get educated : education is a broad way to overcoming a lot of things in life. to avoid loneliness you can join a book club, library friends, movie clubs, church workers and many more educational activities at can keep you busy and at the same time educate you. you can also walk to consultants for counseling where you can be directed on types of books to read and also get a face to face mentoring with daily instructions on how to overcome loneliness. Araa Edu Consult is one of the trusted hand you can consult (araaeduconsult@gmail.com)
4. Pay attention to people needs : have never seen anyone become poor by giving. the more you help people solve their problems, the more friends you have around that care about you, showing kindness will go a long way in shielding you from the trap of loneliness.
5. Be persistence : constant practice of the things discussed in this short write up will help you to permanently overcome loneliness. don't give up even if a group is not working out try another one or its like your not getting up to what your giving just keep trying, keep moving and with time the result will come, keep the friends you make with good heart but be careful as friendship is reciprocal. Spend more time with friends that reward your friendship.

written by: Adefowoju Ayodele